Confidence or lack thereof are based largely on what we believe and what we habitually tell ourselves is true. The following process will help you reprogram any non-useful beliefs about success and thus help boost your self-confidence:

Start off by examining your beliefs about success. Practically everyone has had someone in their life at one time or another who gave them negative ideas about success. Many people automatically believe these messages and later on act as if they are true. You can choose to adopt a different belief by following these steps:

1. First, write out a list of any negative beliefs you have about success. Do this on one side of a sheet of paper. Then on the other side, write a positive version of each belief. For example, if someone told you that you will never succeed, you might write opposite that something like, "I always succeed."
2. Once you have your list of old and new beliefs, elaborate on the new beliefs. What I mean by this is imagine the feelings, thoughts and attitudes that you would experience if you were fully living the new belief. Make this as complete and sensory-rich as possible. For example, how would you feel knowing that you always succeed; what would you think to yourself and hear others saying to you; how would it look?
3. Now, use the optimal times for reprogramming your subconscious mind to reinforce these new beliefs. The optimal times for this are just as soon as you wake up and right before you fall asleep. These are the times each day when you have the greatest access to your subconscious. This is where the fastest, deepest change is possible.

Using the above example, as you were drifting off to sleep you'd mentally place yourself into the experience you'd have if you lived the belief that you would always succeed. You'd do the same thing in the morning just as soon as you wake up.

The whole process takes just a few minutes a day but is very powerful in reprogramming your subconscious beliefs. As these beliefs change, watch your self-confidence grow!

Startled upon Awakening, no desire of my own.
Held captive
Without thought
Feeling overcome…overwhelmed…dilemma unknown.

I cannot move, I am pinned to the bed
Fear the unknown
What will happen if…?
The force is so powerful, what to do…I say in my head.

If only I could call out for help, fight this intruder
Don’t give in
Disassociate
It’s reality…what can I do?…Again, I am a loser.

Please kill me now, don’t do the unknown.
The pain
The agony
To be abused, defenseless…in my own home

Cry out for help, like it mattered…if I did
Embarrassed-ashamed
A victim
Reminding me of being that scared, little kid.

Put a gun to my head and stop the pain.
Sorrow, Guilt
Anger and resentment
All stirs like a cauldron, racing through my vein.

I need to get out from under this perpetrator of pain.
Stop the infliction
Jesus love me
Why do I not secure my own home…does that make me insane?

How do I wrestle to regain control?
How do I do it?
What will be different?
If given the chance to LIVE…to continue my stroll.

It is crazy to sleep in a crime-infested neighborhood.
Lock the doors
Keep look out
It doesn’t take a genius, for this to be understood.

If not on the lookout this burglar is vicious
Steeling and lying
Hurting and destroying
Lost are the memories…intoxicating…delicious.

What could have been, if innocence not lost?
Missed opportunities
Lost hope
Stolen with the material things, and at what cost?

The lies that were told to justify the action
Not worthy…
You deserve it…
Reduce me to less of a person—a minor fraction.

This molester of body and mind knows no limits
Altering lives
Slicing and dicing
Nobody knows the real cost…a voice reduced to mere “tidbits”.

There is only one way to combat this hurtful enemy
Fierce commitment
Intense focus
Choose to live and attack the attacker with the one true remedy.

To know your enemy and the weakness he possesses
Do battle
Don’t give in
Choose to Live, move beyond the limitations…the stresses

When you realize the enemy is living in your shorts
Control your thoughts
What do you want?
Your thoughts create reality…take you to feeling’s ports.

How you battle this enemy…decides how big you get to play
Thoughts become actions
Actions become behavior
In the “Now” victories… living life like it matters…day by day!